THOUGHTS FROM MY THERAPIST
Hello, my friends!
I’ve been in the house all weekend, resting and relaxing and maximizing my time alone. When I told yall I was going into hibernation season, I meant it honey. I’ve been watching movies and Netflix and laying in bed…enjoying every second. The only time I left my house was to go to therapy yesterday. And it was such a good session. With that said, I want to impart some of her wisdom on you because it blessed me. This list is slightly paraphrased because I didn’t write down exactly what she said (and I should have) but here’s the gist of it.
Boundaries can be compassionate, too. People always assume that boundaries are negative things — you put them in place because someone has done you wrong or overstepped a bit — and they’re perceived as a firm stake in the ground. Something with a negative connotation. But they don’t have to be that way. Sometimes, you have to put boundaries in place solely because it’s the right thing to do. And sometimes, it’s an act of showing love and compassion to someone that needs it. Maybe just wrapped in a different package than what they might have expected.
It’s time to learn how to put yourself first. Your 20s were about doing what your parents and family and society told you to do. Those are the formative years where you went to college and/or grad school, tried to nail down a career path, maybe started a long-term relationship, moved to a new city. That time was all about the logistics of your life. But your 30s are about who you want to be. What type of person are you? What are your non-negotiables in this life? How’s your heart? This is the time to figure all that out and put your needs before those of others…so that you can be your best self. You can’t be of service to other people before you take care of yourself.
Consider how you hold space for other people. And, more importantly, how they hold space for you. Basically, how do the people in your life consider you, serve you, use their blessings to be a blessing to you? And vice versa. Think about this when evaluating friendships and relationships alike. It’ll change the way you view the people around you.
We talked about many other things during our session but I felt compelled to share those gems with you. Hopefully they help you a little bit on this lovely Sunday. ;) In other news, the outfit for today’s post is another example of shopping my closet (another thing I’ve committed to doing more often during this season). The hot pink sweater is an oldie but goodie from Forever 21 in Dallas, the skirt is from Amazon and the boots are PrettyLittleThing. The only new item is the pink glasses from FashionNova. I love the way pink and gray look together. It’s an unexpected pairing but it just works. Remember this old post with a pink and gray look? I actually like today’s option much better. What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments below! Love you for reading and following along on my journey. Hope you’re having an amazing day. xoxoxo - Ashley
